Sunday, March 21, 2010

One Month

I finally have a few minutes to sit down and update everyone on how our first month home is going.
I will start with all the positives. Isaiah is doing well in our home. He fits in, loves to play, is very inquisitive and smart. We are amazed. He says several English words including, ball, balloon, eyes, nose, Isaac, daddy, momma, sissy, Josh, water, and up. Sometimes it is a new word everyday. He has a good personality and likes to be tickled and laugh. Once adjusted to the time change his nap/nighttime sleep schedule was pretty predictable. He is a normal 2 year old in many ways.

I cannot say this month has been easy by any means. Isaiah came home with many infections that needed treatment. More recently he did not pass all of his hearing tests, probably due to his tubes being plugged with fluid.
Friday we discovered a double ear infection again and a good possibility he has round worm. If so, we will all need to be treated. We should know more by Monday. I will not say too much otherwise we may not have any friends left!!!! Can you imagine what this little boy will be like when all of these things are cleared up?
Today he has been vomiting and lethargic. So many critters came home with us from Ethiopia.
Isaac is being treated for a sinus infection and I am also being treated for an ear infection/sore throat and cough. What a draining week we have had.

I was really looking forward to church and eating lunch at my in-laws house but it looks like I will be staying home instead.
My mother-in-law has been great this month. She will stop by to play with the kids, do dishes or laundry and it allows me to get out to do some grocery shopping. I have slowly been working on organizing Isaac's room and was able to buy some new storage containers to make everything look much better. All of my nesting instincts are kicking in. Now to all get healthy and move on to getting things ready for the baby. I am am 26-27 weeks along.

Through all of this I have developed a great relationship with my OB/GYN and Isaiah's pediatrician. We have had many laughs together. What else can you do? I will continue to spare you many of the gory details. Here is a saying and verse I read this morning on my Joyce Meyer calender. If you had not heard she is coming to our church, Resurrection Life in Grandville at the end of April. Always an inspiration.

Joy and cheer give us the strength to carry on toward the goal that the Lord has set for us in life.
...And be not grieved and depressed, for the joy of the Lord is your strength and stronghold. Nehemiah 8:10

Last weekend I was dealing with the stomach flu. All night I prayed Psalm 51 "Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your loving kindness; According to the multitude of your tender mercies." I fought and fought it crying out to God all night. I was much better by morning and told Matt we won that victory!

Another verse I pray often for our family is Isaiah 45:2, "I will go before you and make the crooked places straight." I have a note in my bible that this verse was for Matt and I on 5/22/01 three months before we were married. It is a verse I have always stood on for us. It truly works too. Our doctor has said a few times how she is glad we pushed issues regarding Isaiah's health. I believe God is giving us wisdom and knowledge into things. I pray James 1:5, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." How many times this month have I asked God for wisdom? Too many to count. He always answers and is right on!

A dear friend of the family wrote me an email this week to encourage me. This is part of it:
You've been on my mind alot the last couple days and I've been praying for you! Early one morning a few weeks ago, I was praying for you when the Lord impressed this thought on me. I thought maybe that I should share it with you now. As I was praying for strength in all you were dealing with in bringing little Isaiah home, the Lord showed me that what you were going through was "labor" as before you deliver a baby. It is a something that every new Mother has to go through. Even though you did not go through "physical" labor, by going through "emotional" labor , it would make Isaiah more dear to you. Because when we labor for something, whether it be physical or mental, it becomes of much more value. Does this make any sense to you? But the Lord just showed me that everything you were going through, he had a reason for allowing it. I pray that the Holy Spirit comes down right now and you feel his presence in what I'm trying to explain! As a Mother who physically gives birth and loves her child even more for going through that to produce that child, so will you someday look back at this "emotionally draining" time in your life and it will make you love Isaiah all the more! The Holy Spirits words to me when I was praying for you that morning and asking God "why" were "I'm putting Andrea through labor".
When I read this email to Matt I said, "how about I ask the Holy Spirit for an epidural?" Well why not?:)

I have also been talking to God about Ethiopia. I have such negative feelings for the country because our time there was so difficult. Before going we were open to whatever God had planned for us. Matt even told people we may not come back if God wanted us to stay and work.
Can I tell you how bad that sound to me and just be honest? I told God I never wanted to go back. I hated it!
If we did have to return then he would have to give me a huge desire in my heart. I felt him say right away, "Andrea, you will go if I tell you too because you have to obey me." He reminded me of Moses when he came to him in the burning bush. Did Moses really want to return to Egypt and obey God? Didn't he complain and make excuses just like I am? You can read about it in Exodus 3-4. Though I do not think God is asking us to return now he may in the future. Is it not better to obey God and be in His will rather than be out of His will? All the lessons we are learning through this process. I still do not want to go back!
I need to attend to our little one who is looking miserable right now.
Thank you again for the prayers, support and laughs to uplift us!

6 comments:

HollyMarie said...

Thank you for sharing your heart and also for the email your friend sent to you. Yes, I have been listening to Matt Kearney lately and one of the lyrics to one of his songs says: "On and on and on we pray... we can break into a brighter day; nothing worth anything ever goes down easy." So true. And God wants us to come to Him with our petitions.. so go ahead and ask for that epidural! ;) Or at least for the strength to make it though.. cuz He will provide that. He has for me and He will for you too. :)

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Tisha said...

Andrea, I had many of the same feelings and thoughts you described about Ethiopia. It turned from a country I loved and felt such fierce devotion toward, to one that would make me cringe when I thought about it. So much of our time there was really, really draining on a variety of levels. It's getting better as I try to gain perspective that it was only a week, and meeting your new children pretty difficult, and they had so many health issues....
but still, I struggle with never wanting to leave the country again, never, ever wanting to go back there. It was traumatizing and we have some healing to do! All this to say, I was there with you, and I completely understand what you are saying. Thank you for sharing God's faithfulness to you and all the scripture you gave. Isaiah gained a wonderful set of parents.

The LaHuis Family said...

I have always felt that God will never give us more than we can handle. He knows us and where we are in life. I believe we all come home with those feelings of never going back. For me it was like childbirth in that aspect. Never again. Then you look at the precious child that is yours and you forget over time all the pain you went through. Praying that you all get better soon so we can play! Miss you!

KimC said...

I am praying for you. I am so sorry to hear that you had such a difficult time and that your little guy has not been healthy. Hang in there! You are in my thoughts.

Margaret and Cordel said...

Andrea....you are an amazing person, mom and such an inspiration!! Your faith and honesty is awesome!! Adoption is such an experience: both good and hard!! Praying for you all!!!